Posted: March 12, 2024 | Categories: Leadership, Management, Team Building

“My name is Lisl, I’m 16, and I don’t need a governess!”

Movie:  “Sound of Music”

Have you ever tried to help someone, and the person you are trying to help totally rejected you?  Did you think you were wasting your time?  In some cases, maybe you weren’t.

Many years ago I learned a lesson that I have never forgotten.  I was facilitating a 12-week leadership class, and it was session one.  We started by putting the spotlight on one class member at a time.  The goal was for each person to introduce themselves and explain what they wanted to gain from the training. Things were going fine until Gordon came up.  He said, “My name is Gordon Evans.  I was ordered by my boss to be here, and my goal is to get this class over with so I can keep my job.”  Hmmm…, I thought.  I like to meet people where they are at and Gordon was giving me ample opportunity to do that.

I decided to give Gordon his space for the first 3 weeks.  To his credit, he showed up for each class prepared.  Gradually, I began to break the ice…patiently.  I felt I was making incremental progress.  Then came week six, and he had a major breakthrough.  From that point on in the training, he was locked in, learning and growing as much as anyone in the class.

Six months after graduation, I received a call from Gordon.  He had received a promotion and was now in New Jersey.  He called to tell me a great success story he had that was a direct result of applying something he had learned in class.  I asked, “So you did enjoy the class after all?”  He replied, “No, I hated it.  I just thought you would want to hear this story.”  A smile came to my face.  Lesson learned:  If you really care and try to help someone, stay in there with them.  Your persistence can pay off in a wonderful way.

Posted: March 8, 2024 | Categories: Leadership, Management, Team Building

Were you born between 1965 – 1980?  If not, you quite likely have worked with someone born in that time frame.  It is called Generation “X”.

Last week I was clearing out some old files and I came across some notes I had scribbled down in the fall of 1997.  The notes pertained to things we should know when working with the Gen X-er’s.  To my surprise, the recommendations and bits of wisdom were the same as what I read in an article last month.  Here is what we now know is important when working with Generation “X”:

1. Every job is temporary.  Every organization is a means to something better.
2. As a “latch key” generation, these folks are not comfortable being closely supervised.  They are remarkably competent working on their own..YET…
3. They crave time with their supervisors and need continual feedback on their performance.

When we put all these pieces together, the second and third points seem contradictory.  They want to be on their own, and they also want their bosses in there with them.  Bottom line:  If we work with Gen X-er’s, we need to make sure we give them latitude while at the same time be in there with them side-by-side giving sufficient acknowledgement and reinforcement.

Posted: February 15, 2024 | Categories: Leadership, Management, Team Building

“Don’t say yes until I’m finished talking…”

-Daryl Zanuck

Have you heard the term “managing up”?  It means that even though bosses manage us, sometimes we need to manage the boss.  There are so many inspiring examples of positive change occurring when subordinates respectfully disagree with the boss.  I have a favourite example to demonstrate:

In the early 1990’s I was doing teamwork training with a thriving international manufacturing company.  I was instructing a class that focused on communication and leadership skills.  The company had sent all their managers and supervisors through the training – all except the company owner, Ben.  One day after class, one of the class participants took me aside and asked, “Why hasn’t our boss (Ben) taken the training?”  I replied that I had asked Ben many times to enroll, and he would just smile and change the subject.  Steve then said, “Well I think he should take the class.  He could benefit from it.”  Of course, I agreed.  Steve said he was going to talk to Ben about it.

Several days later, I received a call from Ben, the owner.  He said, “I am calling from my office and Steve has me in a headlock and says he won’t let go until I sign up for your course.  I am calling to sign up.”

Ben did take the course and thought it was great.  The people who surrounded him also said he was easier to work for.  Thanks to Steve’s courage and caring for the company, he helped create a stronger team.

I had been instructing the course for three years, and in that time frame many had asked why Ben did not take the course.  Steve asked, and he acted.  In his conversation with Ben, he was respectful and approached Ben with tact.  Steve knew how to “manage up”.  Do you?

Posted: January 22, 2024 | Categories: Leadership, Management, Team Building

Alright. I’ve put this subject off for too long. It is time to pull back the curtain and explore why Millennials and Gen Z folks are reluctant to take a management position. Here we go:

• Lack of trust in senior leadership
• Limited financial rewards
• Work-life balance
• Time off

OK. There is the “why?” What can we do about it? Unless we can do all the work ourselves, we need good managers to maintain a healthy, profitable business. In addressing the “how?”,  I decided to interview two experts on the subject. They are my two sons age 36 and 38. They are both married, have a family, and are in a management position with direct reports. I ask them if they agreed with the statement that most Millennials did not want a management job. They did. I then asked why. They said they didn’t know! I wasn’t satisfied with that answer, so I went deep with my questions. Here is what I found:

Integrity: When working with a Millennial, your word must be your bond. Do what you say you will do and honor your deadlines. Otherwise, you will lose trust.

Show genuine interest: Being aloof or detached will cost you. Be in there with them. Know about their hobbies and birthdays. Watch their body language and develop a sense of knowing when something is wrong. Address the matter quickly.

Make sure the person understands what they are “getting in to” and that they want it and possess the capability. Otherwise, disillusionment may set in.

Be sensitive to their work-life balance. If you need them to work extra hours, explain why and do your best not to make it a habit.

Many Millennials have seen their parents work long hours, be treated unfairly, and experience a parent getting laid off from a company they were loyal to and worked hard for.  The good news is, if you show a genuine interest and act with integrity, Millennials can be excellent managers.

Posted: January 9, 2024 | Categories: Leadership, Management, Team Building, Time management

As we approach the middle of January, many businesses and organizations find this to be their slow season. Restaurants, retail, hotels and charitable organizations typically slow down after the holidays while many tighten their wallets to pay their Christmas charges. If you are a business owner or manager, this is a time you may want to use to get closer with your team and more in tune with what is important to them. This can help prevent a dip in morale and possibly impact turnover. Here is an example:

One of my clients has just come off a very busy season. They ended 2023 with strong momentum. When January 1st came business dropped off like a cliff, and it wasn’t long before I noticed the team was getting restless. When business is slow, that means more idle time. You may remember the saying, “Idle hands are the Devil’s workshop” (Proverbs 16:27-28). It is so true. Back to the team…I noticed they began complaining and criticizing their fellow teammates. As we know, such behavior is corrosive to team trust and performance. In this situation, the owner has taken this slow time to focus on training and teamwork. If there are any issues, they are quickly resolved and not allowed to fester. They have kept all their people and when the busy season starts up again in a couple of months, the team will be strong and ready to take on the challenge

Years ago the director of an organization shared an observation with me: He said that when his team was working on a big project with a solid deadline, everyone knew what to do and the team excelled. When the project was over and there was a lull, the team engagement suffered. We need to keep our teams busy in the slow season.  Doing so will help ensure the most profitable season.